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Border Effort Problems

Expanding your borders won’t solve your problems; expanding your borders while you have problems only expands your problems; solving your problems will effortlessly expand your borders.

Where do you put your effort?

If you focus on how other people are to blame for your problems, you will find the excuse you need. Then, you can have problems and someone to blame for them. But, your own problems will never go away until you can focus on how you yourself are to blame.

So, put all your effort on your own blame, no matter how small your blame borders on being.  · · · →

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Coding Christian

Coders generally have their own styles and preferences that artists don’t understand. So, who is supposed to write art software? Coders actually write it. Artists actually use it.

Coders don’t get along with artists or each other. One guy changes his software, coders who use it spend more time learning his changes than improving their own software. 5% more cooperation would eliminate 95% of software glitches. But, coders don’t cooperate with anyone.

Christians fight more and produce even less. Cooperation is such a struggle in coding, if Christian amateur computer programmers just got along, they could revolutionize the software industry over night.

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Justice, not Money

The problem with the world isn’t money, it’s fairness. Life isn’t fair. It’s extra-kind to rich people and extra-mean to poor people.

What can we do?

Jesus said that the poor would always be among us. He didn’t give them money. He healed them to give them justice. So did his disciples in Acts. Isaiah 11:4 says that Jesus is the judge who gives justice to the poor.

So, don’t love money, don’t hate money either. Just give justice to the poor. Use your money to give justice to the poor and to make other people give justice to the poor.  · · · →

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My Fault, My Idea

There are two great self-realization “epiphany” moments in life:

“I am different from my ideas.”

and

“It’s my fault.”

Knowing that you are not one-in-the-same with your ideas liberates you. You can change your ideas like a pair of shoes. Someone criticizing your ideas won’t insult you personally because they are merely criticizing your ideas, not you.

Knowing something is your own fault frees you to do something about it. You can’t change anything or fix any problem unless it’s your own fault. Maybe it’s only your fault for not having improved.

So, try on this idea: It’s your fault.  · · · →

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Peers and Judges

Judging is a technical skill. Like anything else, it requires study and practice.

Parents, teachers, supervisors, even police, landlords, waitresses, and pizza delivery guys operate as judges from time to time. The rest of the time, among peers, we don’t judge; we only have an “opinion”.

If we do well in smaller courts of life and have good opinions among our peers eventually, other people will ask us to judge them. Some call this “job promotions”, others call it “getting the girl”, “respect from children”, or “winning elections”.

It starts with being serious in whatever small things we may judge.  · · · →

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The Problem of Sovereignty

Among many, one trait fails to set Christians apart from all others: blame-shifting. We all like to blame our problems on someone else—our obstacles, our challenges, our injuries. But, for Christians, we have one bigger problem that forbids us, supposedly, from doing so: The Doctrine of Sovereignty.

God is “sovereign”. He has power over everything—everything! Nothing happens to me which has not first passed through the approving hands of my Father. No matter how painful, unfair, inconvenient—all things that happen to me are for my own good if I am truly a Christian.

That’s hard to accept.  · · · →

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Why Say What You Do

Walking your talk isn’t easy. Best to just make your walk first, then talk from it. Never make any commitment until you’ve determined that you can and will do whatever it takes to keep that commitment.

But, why is it so important to keep every commitment?

What promises are most important—promises that promise the greatest return? The most important promises to keep are whatever the most difficult are to keep. Keeping challenging promises, makes us challenging promise keepers.

Only God keeps every promise. He reserves the most promising promises for people who keep theirs, especially the small and difficult.  · · · →

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Go Until it Feels like too Much

To most people, the work necessary to finish and succeed feels like too much.

As you progress, as you advance and move forward, you start to sweat. You get tired. You get exhausted. You get hungry for food so much that you can easily forget about your hunger to finish.

It even looks like too much.

People watching see neither results nor your vision, they only see your exhaustion. If you’re running a race they have not run themselves, they think you’re just abusing yourself.

So, they’ll tell you to quit. “Love yourself,” they’ll say. But, they just can’t know.  · · · →

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Hard, Unfair Work

The amount of hard work needed to survive is unfair. But, so are the payoffs.

Every victor, every winner, every success story did an unfair amount of hard, smart work—too much, in fact. That’s why they make victory look so easy.

Don’t be distracted by fairness. Nothing is fair, even  your strengths. Everyone has an unfair advantage and an unfair disadvantage. Often times they are the same. What makes it fair is hard work and self honesty about why hard work fails.

Keep going. Once you’ve done more work than you need, you’ll be rewarded more than you deserve.  · · · →

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Gravity’s Life Story

Some people would bend rules of gravity—with friend or enemy, to reward or punish—all as they see fit. Others give justice even to enemies.

We prove which type of people we are in the small things. As such, gravity, being both jealous and powerful, takes note and agrees with us. Those who would bend gravity become the objects of “chronic bad luck”, while “chronic good luck” finds those who respect universal justice.

There are two ways to create good and bad luck: One is agreement with gravity, the other is work ethic. That is most everyone’s life story.  · · · →

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Welcome Thy Friends

Jesus warned that a prophet is never welcome in his hometown. Even his mother and brothers treated him like he was crazy at times.

But, this was not a rule that a prophet must conform to. It was a warning to the hometown and family.

We have a natural tendency to think less of people in our close circles. Think about the logic of that…

“No one close to me could ever be brilliant. So, anyone I know who talks big—I’ll put him in his place.”

Don’t do that. Strange as it sounds: Heed good ideas, even from friends.  · · · →

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Boss Your Decision

Many times, people’s decisions are wrong, but they have the authority to decide. Maybe they should change, but arguing with them won’t help once their decision is final. You can’t change others, but don’t quit.

Be a boss, fix problems under your control—everyone has some. Start new things, inspire people, or publish your dissenting opinion somewhere useful. Just, accomplish something.

Music lessons for pigs are annoying and achieve little. If you try to teach pigs to sing, consider that you might be wrong and your boss has accepted it and already moved on, which is why he’s the boss.  · · · →

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What to Do

Half of society has decided that they don’t want to be told what to do.

It’s not that they don’t want to be bossed or controlled. It’s not that they want freedom. Though, they tell themselves such. Actually, they just want everything to be their own idea.

They don’t ask whether their actions will succeed or fail. They don’t ask if something is good or bad, desirable, healthy, painful, useful, wise, or quite the opposite of all these. They only ask whether someone is “telling them”.

If you tell such people, “Go, thrive, and succeed,” they will fail on purpose.  · · · →

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Two Types of Futurism

There are two types of reasons people predict the future.

The first type is common to everyone—we try to predict the future to see how well we know the past to guide us to accurately anticipate what will happen next.

The second reason is more of the psychopathic reason, and unfortunately is the hidden reason for many of us; the second reason for predicting the future is because we prefer our prediction to become the future. Sometimes, this is called “wishful thinking”.

Believing something will happen and agreeing that something should happen are two different things. Don’t be confused.  · · · →

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