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Working People

Working people mind their own business.

If they get too distracted complaining about other people’s problems, they make excess enemies and run a deficit of their own achievement. Survival requires getting work done. Getting work done takes time. Time requires focus, especially with all the distractions screaming for attention.

Busybodies are not the threat they like to think of themselves as. When a busybody complains about you, don’t worry. He’s focusing on your challenges because he hasn’t overcome enough of his own. Just keep working.

Working people are formidable, both in daily challenges and when the are confronted by challengers.

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Grow up and Teach Yourself

One of the most important things to understand is knowing who wants to understand.

Time and again, an up and coming leader delegates design, manufacturing, marketing, engineering, software development, customer relations—while directing brand strategy in a vacuum from whatever they delegate. Brand graveyards are littered with flowers from copywriters who quit or were fired just before the brand failed. Do your research and find out.

In fact, always do your research. Work with people who do their own research. Teach people who teach themselves. Teach yourself so good teachers want to teach you.

Grow with people who grow up.  · · · →

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Wise Tone of Voice

America is seeing an epidemic of immaturity. People in their twenties and thirties are self-destructing like I have never known.

The story is always the same. “Adults and the culture didn’t treat me fairly when I grew up,” so they injure themselves, hurt themselves, fool themselves, squander themselves, and reject themselves—all because someone else treated them wrongly.

Really?

An entire generation made unwise choices because they were mistreated? It’s not their fault, even a little?

Don’t live that way. Don’t hurt yourself because of others. Don’t ignore good advice because someone told you in the wrong tone of voice.  · · · →

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Killing Pity

Pain doesn’t go away by focusing on it. Pain is a symptom, not a problem. Most problems need time and the body needs strength. Focusing on our own pain makes us weaker; then the problem grows, the pain worsens. And, if we don’t get wise to the cycle, the cycle will snowball into self pity.

As much as we’d like to think so, other people have much bigger problems than we do. They need us to put their problems ahead of our own.

In fact, as we help others, we might stay away from our own cycles of self pity.  · · · →

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Autographed Self-Identity

What do you want the story of your life to be? What do you want written on your tombstone? I don’t mean what do you claim to want, but what do your actions say you want on your tombstone?

Is your sexual identity the most prominent item on your portfolio? Do you mostly see yourself as the one whom people reject? Do people who talk to you know that you will “put them in their place”?

Do you bring peace? Do you remind people of the sunset beneath the golden linings? Do you encourage, inform, or advise?

What’s your auto-epitaph?  · · · →

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Newly Conventional

Barriers of conventional wisdom never really worked. But, with the 2016 election over—and its consequences coming into full swing—we are seeing more and more that they fail. Now that we are seeing it, the secret is out, and conventional wisdom no longer has its hypnotic effect on the masses.

Now, it’s just a matter of time until this becomes the new normal and conventional wisdom gets redefined. What worked in this past election won’t work quite the same way next time.

So, what will you do? You don’t know. No one knows. We’ll have to keep watch and see.  · · · →

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Let Beauty Be Your Narrative

Every day that we wake up and see the news we ask the same question, “What’s the bad news today?” You know if it’s in the newspaper it’s going to be bad news.

But, sunsets and our ability to see their beauty were both created by a God in Heaven. He is beautiful and has the power to save and heal and bring such a happy ending that we remember none of the storm.

Though we go through hardship, don’t let bad news be your own narrative. The world around us is in darkness, but beauty can be your narrative.  · · · →

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Keep Your Proof in Your Pudding

When you move forward with good work, problems come out of the woodwork. Your boss may object. Your car may break down. People may falsely accuse your motives—since motives are unseen, no one can prove a “motive” accusation wrong. But, most of the trouble is just getting your would-be allies to understand you. Even friends trying to help will seem to slow you down.

Change is an uphill battle. Here’s the secret to making it work: Never talk about yourself.

…Not your effort, your trouble, your goals, your honesty—just let the proof in the pudding speak for itself.  · · · →

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Offended by Offense

When we offend others, it is very easy to sit in our little power nests we have so carefully crafted through the years and lecture others on their need to “forgive us” in response to our misinterpretation of their requests that we make a better life.

Whether someone forgives me for whatever I may do to offend him is not my business; it is between him, God, and his relationships that his offendedness may poison. The only role I have with someone I have offended is to listen, interpret, and rectify, no matter how youthful and not-my-style his words are.  · · · →

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Non-Stick of Stickinessers

One of the marked, but rarely noted, traits of “highly successful” people is their ability to not hold a grudge. Recent examples are the election and the voters—the forgivers and the vindicators.

Being offended, holding a grudge, “claiming your right” to object, standing up for principal—or however you want to cloak it—clinging to the past anchors oneself in the past. Of all the success skills and self-improvement steps one could learn, moving ahead without staring behind is the most worthwhile.

So, never fire someone without a recommendation letter and never argue with people not in the room.  · · · →

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Peace to All

The meaningful news of Christmas is simple: God is with us.

It means peace on Earth. It means goodwill toward Mankind from the Most High.

Many times, people misinterpret this news as a sales pitch for Sunday morning. It’s not. Good news is just good news. And, the good news of Christmas is “God with us”. We are not alone. The One who would help us from Heaven has already come.

That’s not a message of any other holiday. It’s not a belief of any other main religion today. So, “God with us” really is news—good news for all.  · · · →

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Assume Ourselves

Nearly all assumption fits into two categories. We either assume that other people do things the same way we do or we assume other people will do things differently. Both make the bigger assumption about ourselves.

If we do things how everyone does them, then we are just like everyone else.

If we think others do things worse than we do them, we think of ourselves as superior. Pride goeth before the fall.

If we think others will always have better results than we do, we’ve made our own glass ceiling.

It’s generally best not to assume anything at all.  · · · →

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Treasure of a Gentleman

In the world discussion on sexuality, non-traditional positions presume two quests for self-identity are impossible: 1. self-control and 2. buried treasure. But, it is possible to control ourselves.

Humans only “require” breathing, drinking, eating, sleeping, and hoping for love. Love is not restricted to any particular expression. But, love is vast and always requires sacrifice and self-control.

God knows our hopes such that He hid treasures and talents within us. Our inmost talents are softly concealed; we find them the more we find ourselves. God, the Great Gentleman, created ourselves to become knowable by ourselves. Of course he would, gentlemen have self-control.  · · · →

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