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Whose Pockets Are Deep?

Once the city gets built, residents easily loose the conscience that built their city.

Projects yield good results because of wisdom, tough decisions, doing things that aren't popular everywhere, even paying above market value, firing friends, and hiring enemies, all because of the quality of work that will get done. But, after the hard work, hard thinking, and hard choices become history, human tendency is to take the yield for granted.

Pile that into urban populations with infrastructure and real estate unsustainable without farmlands. Understandably, urban populations favor public spending. But, it's big money, not bankrupt government, that spends big.

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Sugar Push

Backing down is not the same thing as being sweet and charming. Friendliness includes pushing forward, leaning on slow doors until they open.

Reject the lie that nice guys have to finish last. Actually, nice guys finish first so they can take the trophy home to their loved ones who supported them—and put up with them—through all the difficult training necessary to win.

Nothing gets done without turbulence. Races require sweat. Construction requires demolition and dust. Even trees break up the ground as they spread roots. Life grows better if you're sweet, but winning makes your sweetness worthwhile.

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Treat Friends as Friends

Treat your friends well. Friends are friends as long as you treat them like friends. The moment you fail to forgive, fail to show mercy, or even fail to share is the moment you make your best friend into your enemy.

It's not that your lack of compassion and kindness will offend your friend, though there is that. The problem runs deeper: Men are not inclined to die quietly.

When you fail in friendship to share and show mercy, you require that former friend to fight you to survive. That choice adds insult, so such friends won't object to fighting.

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Yank the Cord

Everyone has opportunities and no opportunity lasts forever. So, everyone has a revolving door of opportunities that come and go. But, people tend to forget, which is why people tend to take opportunities for granted, thinking every opportunity will last forever.

Sometimes you are the opportunity for someone else. Accordingly, people will take you for granted and think that your time is limitless. When they do, don't stick around for them. It's always tempting to stick around while ambivalent people ponder nothing infinitely; don't.

One of the best opportunity teachers is the opportunity missed. Never miss your teachable opportunity to teach.

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Messy Patience in Leadership

Many of us live in a world surrounded by stuff that doesn't work—square pegs ordered for round holes they won't fit, things so disorganized not a flicker of hope shines an escape from chaos, people who just won't do a good job no matter how much extra work it creates for themselves and others. Such disorder requires patient leaders.

The temptation of any leader or foreseer is to push the process along and make life better. Don't be seduced by this. People's quality of life must be their own, not their leader's. Order can be taught, but not bestowed.

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Killing Cockroaches

There are two ways to kill a cockroach, one way involves the same way to prevent its intrusion in the first place: starvation. If we don't have food or water sprinkled all over our floors and in the cracks of our sofas, they won't last more than a month and they probably won't move in to begin with. The second way is with poison.

Cockroaches poop and pee and make our houses stink. Outside, they keep the world clean because the rain cleans up after them. They'll only visit to clean up houses whose keepers don't clean up after themselves.

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God’s Perfect Time

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oB-vB_OjXf0

God seems to like to wait until the last minute before solving our problems, but, He doesn't actually. He doesn't wait until the last minute anymore than He waits for the first minute; He waits for the perfect minute.

Baking a cake requires the perfect cooking time, neither too long nor too short. Our self-worry, wanting to fly while keeping both feet on the ground, causes us to perceive that God often waits until the last minute to come through. He doesn't. He does everything at just the perfect time.

It takes getting used to—acting at the perfect time.

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‘Thrive’ Coaching vs ‘Life’ Coaching

Anyone can refine and narrow-down a preferred recreation. Anyone can sit in a chair and ponder one's own life and what useless hobbies we each enjoy the most. But, profitability—the ability to make the money needed to do what you really want to do in your heart—that can't come from a psychologist or conversationalist.

Discovering your own profitability requires someone who has discovered his own. We need feedback from friends and family. These are useful. But even more, we also need information, facts, challenges, and someone to teach by example on how to quickly get to the point.

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Obedience Is Therapy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzCC9TwgWCE

We have so many identity-shaping experiences from our formative years, no book can be written long enough to list what kinds of events might make us act insane.

Even being asked to sit down might trigger a conditioned response that a scolding would soon follow and a beating after that. So, a friend asks you to sit down, you flip out, and you can't figure out what went wrong.

The golden rule from Jesus flags and cures all of these—love others as yourself, don't resist evil. By following his simple rules, you'll find whatever issues lurk beneath the surface.

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Doompossibles

Ignore them. You know who... The people who say, "It will never fail, but you always will."

These are the lecturer-types who are convinced that world empires never fail—as if they never heard about Rome or Greece. "It is the biggest and always will be." Such are the words of a man who does not believe things can be caused because he does not know how things are caused into being. So, he neither believes nor knows how things are caused into failing.

He's wrong. You can cause success as much as you can cause failure. Make smart choices.

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Push Open

Victories never happen by themselves, including the Godly ones. Unless God decides the battle, fighting only wastes time. When God decides to whom the victory should go, the battle must still be fought. God avails opportunity and unlocks doors, but we must step forward, reach out, push open, and take what is offered to us—because victories never happen by themselves.

Sometimes, a gentle push means offering tokens of friendship or demonstrated charity. Sometimes it means showing the truth to someone who misunderstands you. Sometimes it means evicting bad, dangerous people. But, every victory needs taking; and taking means taking.

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It Comes in Waves

Hard work, achievement, victory, and defeat all come in waves.

Consider how a sand castle gets knocked down. It doesn't happen slowly and evenly as the tide comes in. One wave after another gets closer and closer until a monster wave comes out of nowhere and washes over the sand castle how an army only dreams of.

Things turn for better just when they look worse and worse just when they look better, then back to better and then back to worse or even better. Progress and decline both swing and leap. They are never linear, but always rewarding foresight.

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Try

You can't know whether a thing will work out unless you try it. Three things often try to keep us from trying things that are most likely to work out: fear of being a nuisance, boredom, and bad weather.

If you plans are good, bad people will be annoyed by them. Never fear being a nuisance, hope for it. The good roads are long and boring. Never let a boring road deter you from its destination. And, right before we head off to unearth buried treasure, some thunderstorm always gets jealous. But, bad weather has a way of pulling punches.

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Tables & Enemies

God prepares tables in the presence of enemies. This is one of the benefits that comes with being a Christian. When Jesus is your friend, he takes his white tux and wraps it around you, right in front of your enemies, just to tick them off.

It might sound insensitive to be so insensitive to mean, cruel, oppressive—well, to enemies. But, flaunting a little lack of concern for people who want to do you harm comforts the soul. Nothing is as reassuring as the Almighty setting up tables topped with white linens and fancy banquets all ready to eat.

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