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Shift Focus, Blame, or Mirrors

Anyone can think the sky is falling when the "other" guy wins an election. Friends say what we don't like, we make baseless insults, then we complain about a divided nation.

If you've enjoyed the same old, bland, partisan, well-mannered non-progress for years, then a populist like Obama or Trump comes along to rub you the wrong way—well, anyone can go loopy. Some of us grow thick skin before others.

Post-election conniptions are normal. Don't blame for people having them, don't join them either. Spread some love. Focus on the problems in the bathroom mirror—not the rear-view mirror.

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Keep Going

Perseverance, endurance, persistence, and just not giving up are more than wheel-spinning "motivationals". There are specific reasons why some things only happen if we keep going, burning calories to name one.

Sexy muscle tone, athletic reflexes, instinctive self-defense, and merely good posture are acquired through repetition. The same is true of music, dance, art, programming, carving wood, pottery, knitting, cooking, and even friendship, leadership, and, most importantly of all, servanthood. Almost anything you are trying to get done includes "continue" somewhere in the instructions.

They say, "Time heals many wounds." And, that's true as long as your body keeps going.

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Keep it Simple

Don't overreach. Don't overdo it.

It's easy to think that "high standards" always help. High standards can help, but not if they become entry-level requirements.

Allow people to grow. Allow yourself to grow. Allow "on ramps" everywhere in your life.

High standards are not about expecting every rookie to start out as a seasoned pro. We don't only want to "set" high standards; we want to reach them.

Search for potential. Allow for the best. Teach and encourage even the worst. When people excel, get out of the way. Above all, look for passion. Anyone can learn anything when fascinated.

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Call-Out Name-Calling

Name-calling never got anyone anywhere.

Don't confuse name-calling with "nick-naming". Nick names are descriptive terms for friends and enemies, terms like "Rocket Man", "W" AKA "the Shrub", "President Hair Do", and "Slick Willy". But, name-calling isn't objective, can't be endearing, and only serves to vent frustration from people who can't bring the change they want.

Don't call people "moron", "brain-damaged", "stupid", or "buffoon". Don't imply it. Don't talk like it. In fact, say so when other people do.

Calling names is one's own surrender. It's the loser throwing rocks at the tanks entering his city. Don't ever be that guy.

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Don’t Be Fooled by Today

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Don't be alarmed over politics. Politics are almost always predictable, in an "unpredictable" way. The more you study history, the less you'll be surprised by any curve balls, politics notwithstanding.

Many people try to explain or understand political leaders whom they despise. But, it's difficult to understand someone you don't respect. And, it's difficult to respect someone you fear because you misunderstand.

So, don't try to understand today. Try to understand what happened yesterday. Try to know what happened yesterday. Don't be alarmed by today's bad news. Live today, but study the past. Then, life just might be less alarming.

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Encourage

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Encouragement never hurts.

Sometimes we need truth, especially when truth is as hard to find as it is to hear.

Sometimes we need correction, all the more when we're going the wrong way.

But, we always need encouragement.

Encouragement is not a blanket claim that any ambition can be achieved by any amount of effort or by any means.

Whether chasing a goal or seeking a goal to chase, remember that success awaits everyone, on the condition that we pursue the right goal in the right way with the right effort. That's encouraging. Remind yourself. Remind everyone you meet. Encourage.

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Negotiate Minimal

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The best method for negotiation is to know your minimal self.

There are many tactics and theories taught by many people. There is the "I don't need you, I want you" tactic—also a truth. Then, the "you owe me" and "that's your problem" tactics, plus the famous "over-aim to get what little you want" tactic.

But, the best method is to know your minimal from the beginning, declare it from the outset, and stick to it.

If you can compromise a point after 20 hours of talk, you never really wanted it in the first place. You should know that.

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Respect and Planning

Things never turn out exactly as we plan them. They don't turn out how we expect for ourselves nor for our friends nor for our enemies.

We can and should plan, prepare, hone our skills, and always be ready.

But, don't go overboard. Don't fear your enemies. They have enough of their own battles and surprises. Instead, give enemies a little more respect, a little less fear, and a little less hate. At the end of the day, we are all pieces on the grand chessboard of the universe, subject to the surprises and strategy of the Grand Chess Master.

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Urgency of Galaxies

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Strange as it seems, try this idea on: God wants us to design galaxies in the afterlife; preparing to design galaxies now is His solution to our problems right now.

Is that "pie in the sky"? We don't want to keep our eyes on the sky so much that we don't keep our eyes on the ball.

Then again, designing galaxies could strengthen creative thinking. Today's challenges may only be overcome creatively. Looking at the sky a little more may keep the ball from getting lost in the sun. It may not seem urgent, but a galactic perspective ain't bad.

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Right or Incompetent

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You can go to anyone and get an opinion about anything. Why do you think your opinion is worth having? What is your basis? Do you go to the deli or gas station to get an opinion about what medical treatment you should take?

Some people are proven right about politics over and over—who would get elected, which problem is a problem, what scandals are real.

The best way to evaluate an opinion is by results: Follow the money. Follow the results. We must treat results as if they were intended because, if they weren't then they were incompetent.

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Capitalism Cap-able

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Eating the bigger fish won't make smaller fish bigger. Putting a glass ceiling above the people above you won't stop you from hitting your head on a glass ceiling. Bringing others down won't help you ascend.

Big fish eat little fish. Little fish don't want to be eaten. By keeping the little fish safe, the big fish starve. All you need to do to make all life fair in the pond is to protect the little fish. Preserve their freedom.

Attacking big fish is only a distraction—such an effective distraction that provoking attack could be a big fish tactic.

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Proven Opinions

Everyone wants an opinion, but not everyone understands. This goes for many topics, politics not the least.

What is the purpose of a political opinion?—To be angry at others? To blame others? To think you have all the answers so you can sleep at night? To make the world a better place? How is your goal going?

What evidence do you have that, if you had to put money on your political opinion being right, you wouldn’t lose everything you own?

When you are proven wrong, do you re-evaluate your opinion-making process? Without reevaluating, opinions won’t ever prove right.  · · · →

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Problems too Big

Christians’ reputation precedes them. They do a terrible job at nearly everything, argue with each other all the time, and look down on the rest of the people who keep the world spinning. Why?

It’s small thinking.

They believe that, in one way or another, meeting Sunday Morning is “more valid”. It’s not that Christians think that Christians are better than others; it’s that they think Sunday Morning is better than others.

But, if God made everything, isn’t every day equally valid? Isn’t all “fellowship” equally “real”? If Jesus is so big, Sunday Morning too small for him to fit.  · · · →

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Border Effort Problems

Expanding your borders won’t solve your problems; expanding your borders while you have problems only expands your problems; solving your problems will effortlessly expand your borders.

Where do you put your effort?

If you focus on how other people are to blame for your problems, you will find the excuse you need. Then, you can have problems and someone to blame for them. But, your own problems will never go away until you can focus on how you yourself are to blame.

So, put all your effort on your own blame, no matter how small your blame borders on being.  · · · →

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